Dating In The Age of Technology: 4 Tips to Dating “Old Skool” Style

Our resident relationship educator, Auketria, dishes on dating and technology. How did these two end up co-mingling? How do you handle technology and dating? Can technology ruin a relationship or can it bring two people closer together? Find out the answers, plus more, in the post below. Grab a coffee because it’s going down in the blog post (pun intended)

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4 Tips to Bring Old School Normalcy to Your Dating Life in the Age of Technology

Do you remember the high school days when a guy expressed interest in you by passing a note in class through at least two classmates that ended with check boxes labeled, “yes,” “no” and sometimes, “maybe?”

How about the instances where he’d send one of his friends over with the universal line, “my homeboy said what’s up?”

Even in early adulthood, the simplicity of bumping into someone at the grocery store, the park, a party or church seems more like a memory than normalcy.

These days, folks will either “like” ten photos at one time on your Instagram, “slide in your DM’s” (direct message via Instagram, for those more seasoned readers), “poke you” and message you on Facebook or re-tweet all of your intellectual tweets on Twitter in order to get your attention.

Please, let us not forget the infamous #MCM (Man Crush Monday) and #WCW (Woman Crush Wednesday) posts of individuals who are the secret object of someone’s affection that occasionally turn into relationships or more unfortunate circumstances, “situation-ships.”

There also used to be a time when dating or being in an exclusive relationship with someone was less of a trend and more of a commitment between two people who were compatible in the areas where it truly matters: spiritually, intellectually, recreationally and financially.

Dating was inclusive of real live phone conversations that lasted into the wee hours of the morning along with actual dates where a couple goes out into public places and experience new things together.

Now, surely, this still exists for so many, but in the age of technology, some men and women alike are doing less to win and maintain the affection of their love interest resorting to communicating through electronic devices the majority of the time or, “Netflix and Chill-ing” (Father why!?)

And, need I mention how I’ve witnessed individuals being Facebook friends while dating takes a turn for the worse! Someone gets to stalking someone else’s page, comment section, etc. and suddenly someone who may be innocent is now guilty of entertaining other prospects. Before the saturation of social networking, this was not a common problem with dating.