3 Truth Bombs: Why Love & Relationships Require a Little Work

I approached a few people with this statement:

“I need to know one of your initial thoughts/expectations of relationships that you later learned was unrealistic and what was the “aha” moment?”

And here were the responses:

“…the amount of time people take to respond to calls and messages. When I was younger, if I didn’t hear back right away, I assumed something was up. I had to eat crow quite a few times when it turned out he was legitimately busy with work or sometimes just asleep; also assuming he knew how I felt. I was so uptight in my 20’s everything had to be just so perfect or it was over.” – D. Thompson

“Overtime I have learned that marriage isn’t easy. I thought if two people loved one another enough to take a leap of faith and vow to spend their lives together that it will always be blissful. I can honestly say that I was extremely immature when I said, “I do.” That immaturity caused a lot of discord and those moments left me feeling unloved and uncared for because my husband didn’t agree with me. During a bad argument, I had that “ah ha” moment. God spoke to me clearly and told me to, “Shut up!” I took a moment and went into my prayer closet to spend time with God. Ephesians 5:22 is where I was lead to go. It was at that moment, I understood the order of marriage and where my place was and if this was going to last a lifetime, as I had hoped, I would have to fall back and allow my husband to lead.” – T. Newton

“Expectations were perfect, but weren’t and had to be worked toward that perfection then aha! The work had to be put in to get where you wanted perfect to be and then it was so.” – Anonymous Male

“For me it was to think one can control everything or every situation.” – M.B.

“One of the simplest unreal expectations/thoughts is that relationships/marriages are easy and it really doesn’t take real work to have a successful one. Sometimes you think he or she likes/loves me; and boom the relationship is all good. But behold NOT…it takes a lot of work and effort to put in your relationship for it to sustain and be successful and that’s on both sides.” – B. York