Piecing Them Together While You’re Broken + 4 Ways to Preserve Your Peace

But how many of you reading this know that spirits and feelings are transferable? See, there’s been times when I tried to hide my weak or sad moments from my children and they absolutely could feel that something was off. They’d interrogate me trying to find out what was wrong with the “mama are you okay?” or “what’s wrong with you?”

At times, they just knew mom was not at her greatest and simply left me alone without me having to ask. Being a single mother over the years, I have become so fixated on being strong, resilient, superwoman (real talk, making something out of nothing) and an overcomer that lately I have found myself not including my own emotional well-being on my list of priorities. So when I saw the Facebook post, even though I kept scrolling, I knew that it was for me.

Sometimes the simplest things will minister to your entire being and provoke change and improvement right away or other times gradually. One of the interesting things about this is one of my brothers and my dad are always concerned about me because of this very thing. Other family members, too – my mom, my oldest sister, my sister-in-love and one of my closest friends have always said that they want me to take care of me (pardon me while I dab my tear drops).

Their concern is that I am so consumed with not wanting my children to miss out on much whether it’s something they want or like I’ve been saying this entire blog, being at their beck and call in every way that I neglect me and what’s best for our little family as a whole excessively. Many times, making sure that they have so much of what they want whether it was cheer camp or a trip to Orlando I made financial decisions to support those wants that I probably should not have. Now, quite a few weeks before I saw this infamous post that sent me into my aha moment I had already made some changes that I had immediate control over for myself personally.

These four peacemaking tips will help both me and you to be more involved in our well-being and self care.